How Much Does it Really Cost to be a Bridesmaid?

by Kennedy Blue June 06, 2018 13 Comments

You’ve been asked to be in a wedding. How exciting! But wait—before you accept, there are a few things to consider. While it’s an incredible honor to be in a friend or loved one’s wedding, the cost of being a bridesmaid is more than you think. There are plenty of hidden monetary expenses as well as the time and emotional energy that goes into being a bridesmaid. 

For some people, the commitment is more than they can realistically afford. If you absolutely can’t make it work, it’s totally okay to say you’d rather be a guest or prefer to participate in a less expensive role. If you want to make it happen, though, go into the experience armed with the right attitude and follow these tips!

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The Cost of Being a Bridesmaid: (Way) More Than Just a Dress 

You might think the bridesmaid dress is the most expensive part of being in a friend’s wedding. Turns out it’s just a small percentage of the wedding expenses associated with bridesmaid duties. Wedding Wire estimates that the average cost of being a bridesmaid is $1200 for each wedding. Yikes! 

It’s worth noting, though, that the cost of being a bridesmaid—like the cost of living—varies by region. Bridesmaids on the west coast pay an average of $1360 per wedding, whereas Midwest ‘maids have it cheapest at $1100. Shoutout to our local Minnesota ‘maids!

No matter where the wedding is being held, or how much travel is involved, you'll be glad you researched the cost of being a bridesmaid before committing to such an important role. So now that we know the average cost of participating in a wedding, let's break it down!

Bridesmaid Duties Are Expensive: Parties, Travel, Gifts, Oh My!

Okay, so what are all these extra costs associated with bridesmaid duties? Here’s a breakdown.

  • Alterations: Unless you’re paying big bucks to order perfectly-fitted gown, most bridesmaid dresses are not custom made. Nearly all bridesmaids will have to get their dresses altered in some way—shortened, taken in, straps added, etc. The cost of these alterations can quickly drive up the overall cost of the dress and should be considered when purchasing.
  • Parties: Bridesmaids are expected to throw the bride several different parties. That often means buying or making treats for the engagement party, party favors for the bridal shower, raunchy decorating for the bachelorette party, and more. Many brides are opting for destination bachelorette parties, too. A night out is one thing, but a weekend away is another and can quickly break the bank if you haven’t prepared for the expense.
  • Travel: If you’re lucky, the wedding is close to where you live. For many, however, attending a wedding involves travel. This can be as cheap as a $30 tank of gas or as expensive as a $650 cross-country flight. 
  • Accommodation: Even if you live in town, most brides want their ‘maids near them the night before the wedding. This means that most bridesmaids will have to pay for 1-2 nights in a hotel.
  • Gifts: A wedding shower gift. Lingerie for the bachelorette party. A wedding gift. Even though bridesmaids are already paying a lot, it’s typically expected that they give gifts at each occasion. That can easily put them out an extra couple hundred dollars. 
  • Hair, Makeup, and Accessories: Some brides will want the bridal party to get their hair, makeup, and nails done together for the wedding. They might also insist on matching accessories and shoes. Altogether, these expenses can match or exceed the cost of a dress.

While these expenses vary by wedding, it’s easy to see how bridesmaid duties can be quite expensive. Start saving early for the cost of being a bridesmaid so you’re not struck by all the expenses at once! Some young women even set aside a certain portion of their monthly savings for wedding expenses. After all, it’s likely they’ll be asked to participate in or attend a significant number of weddings in their 20s.

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Discuss the Bride’s Expectations for Bridesmaid Duties

Based on the estimates above, it’s easy to see how the cost of being a bridesmaid can vary widely—it all depends on the bride. Buzzfeed interviewed seven bridesmaids to find out how much their wedding expenses were. One bridesmaid managed to only spend $310 because her dress only cost $40, the wedding was in-town, and the bride paid for her ‘maids hair. Another bride, however, had to cough up a steep $3,000 for cross-country travel, party expenses, the dress, and more. 

When a friend asks you to be in her wedding, talk about her expectations for the bridesmaid duties. Does she want a destination bachelorette party? Is her heart set on a $300 bridesmaid dress? Will she or her parents help defer the cost of certain bridesmaid expenses? While it may seem awkward, having this conversation early on will help you avoid unpleasant (or downright unaffordable!) surprises later. Besides, if you’re good friends, she’ll understand. Being transparent about your financial situation may also help her realize the importance of helping her bridesmaids save money

Even if you agree to be a bridesmaid right away, it’s okay to talk about budget later when picking out bridesmaid dresses and determining other expenses. Ask the bride what she wants in a bridesmaid dress, then offer to do the preliminary search. She’ll likely be grateful to have one less thing to research, and you can find a budget friendly option that suits everyone. All Kennedy Blue dresses are under $150, so browse the full collection of bridesmaid dresses or check out this post highlighting 27 great options under $150!

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The Mental “Expenses” of Being a Bridesmaid

Okay, so you’ve crunched the numbers and are prepared for the financial cost of being a bridesmaid. Great! It’s also important to be prepared for the mental “expenses” as well. Fulfilling your bridesmaid duties requires a lot of time and planning. You’ll need to be emotionally invested in helping the bride achieve her vision of the big day throughout the planning period. Bridesmaids should help diffuse the stress of preparation and make it as easy as possible for the bride to make decisions. It’s also your job as an attendant to be patient when (yes, when) the bride has a freak out. Or two. Or three. It’s all part of the experience, trust us.

Consider the Couple’s Wedding Expenses

Yes, it’s expensive to be in a wedding. Consider in comparison how much more the couple are spending on the wedding. This is to be expected—it’s their wedding, not yours, after all—but it can make you feel better about the cost of being a bridesmaid. You obviously care a lot about the couple and are most likely willing to spend a bit to take part in their big day. Take a deep breath, do the math, and get budgeting.

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If You Can’t Afford the Cost of Being a Bridesmaid

Sometimes, no matter how much you want to make it work, it just isn’t feasible. Nobody wants to let their friend down, but you can’t argue with math if the budget just doesn’t add up. 

If you know you can’t afford to be a bridesmaid but still want to support the bride on her big day, ask to take on a different role. There are plenty of wedding roles beyond the wedding party with a much lower financial commitment. Offer to be a passage reader, a program attendant, or even a personal attendant. The personal attendant fulfills a similar role to the bridesmaid, but primarily on the day-of. She gets to spend time with the bride on the big day, helping her get ready and making sure everything is organized, but doesn’t need a matching dress. It’s a great way to still be closely involved without becoming too financially involved!

Knowing what to expect financially is an important part of being a bridesmaid. If you’re in a pinch money-wise, being asked to spend a lot to be in a friend’s wedding can quickly breed resentment. Yikes! That’s not how you want to remember the experience. If you’re aware of the cost of being a bridesmaid at the time you’re asked, though, the whole process will be a lot smoother and more enjoyable. 

Bridesmaids in Kennedy Blue Madeline

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Weddings are expensive, but they’re also SO fun and memorable! You’ll make incredible memories being a part of your friend’s big day. You’ll also probably meet some awesome new friends through the planning stages and hanging out with the rest of the bridal party. At the end of the day, the couple will be SO thankful that you were a part of their big day—and that’s priceless.

How much have you had to spend to be a bridesmaid? What was one thoughtful way the couple helped you save money? Let us know!



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13 Responses

Ashley
Ashley

July 19, 2018

It could be way more if you went with a different coolmpany other than Kennedy Blue. I love that the dresses are affordable, available in many sizes, styles, and colors. Perfect company for brides!

Danesha Hayes
Danesha Hayes

June 22, 2018

Can someone give advice on how much I should let my bridesmaids know they will be out of one of my very good friends I have know for 16 years since we were 12 is completely fiancially stable but I would be Burt if she wasn’t in my wedding.

Whitney L
Whitney L

June 18, 2018

Kennedy Blue dresses are beautiful and so well priced! Definitely help make it easier on bridesmaids!!

Lula Clark
Lula Clark

June 18, 2018

Being a bridesmaid can be expensive, yet despite the price it is totally worth it!

JC
JC

June 18, 2018

I had no clue how much it cost for my bridesmaids with my wedding. I had never been a bridesmaid before. Now being a bridesmaid, I’m looking at every way possible to do things inexpensively.

Allee
Allee

June 14, 2018

Being a bridesmaid is such a special time between friends!

Fiona L.
Fiona L.

June 13, 2018

What a great article. As I have a small bridal party, I really want to keep cost at a minimum. Both my bridesmaid and MOH can’t really afford to splurge and I respect that. So this is a great article to help keep me in check in regards to expectations!

Sarah Beutel
Sarah Beutel

June 12, 2018

This was a big concern for me when I planned my wedding. I tried to include as much “necessity” items my bridesmaids would need to buy in my budget. But, at the end of the day, if you accpet to being in a wedding then you know you’re signing up for a cost!

Rachel
Rachel

June 12, 2018

Being a bridesmaid is so expensive sometimes. That’s why as a bride I am trying to make it as affordable as I can. Having the bachelorette party the same week as the wedding helps with my maids that are out of town so they only have to travel once!

Hanna
Hanna

June 08, 2018

It is SUPER expensive to be a bridesmaid or Maid of Honor, but what I found most helpful was to save up right after I was asked. I would just put a little bit away from each paycheck and put it in a jar so I wouldn’t touch it. I would never expect my bridesmaids to spend that much money on my wedding though, so I will cover as much as I possibly can! Kennedy Blue dresses are beautiful and affordable, so I’m excited to use these dresses for my bridal party!

Mathia Shumaker
Mathia Shumaker

June 08, 2018

I think it’s great when brides help out bridesmaids. I also think it’s great the other way around. A wedding is such a big day and it’s a blessing to have close friends and family there, no matter what.

Mathia Shumaker
Mathia Shumaker

June 08, 2018

I think it’s great when brides help out bridesmaids. I also think it’s great the other way around. A wedding is such a big day and it’s a blessing to have close friends and family there, no matter what.

Katy
Katy

June 07, 2018

This was one of my main concerns when choosing my wedding location. My fiancé and I live in a different state than both sets of our parents. We live in alabama, but my family is in Tennessee, and his is in Louisiana – which means our wedding party is from all over the US. In order to keep costs low for our bridal party, I purchased bridesmaid dresses from Kennedy blue! This also made it super easy for my bridesmaids to choose their own style, which was harder since they’re all in different states. I’m also covering the cost of their hair the day of the wedding, and also sending them visa gift cards to help cover the cost of any alterations that may be necessary. I’m thankful to have them all in my wedding, so I’m trying to help where I can :)

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