It’s a not that secret that the wedding preparation is, usually, more focused on the bride than on the groom. However, as you have probably already noticed by this point, there are a lot of responsibilities to be fulfilled by you --much more than just “showing up on time”.
So, if you’re quickly approaching the Big Day, you might want to know what you can do to make sure that everything’s ready (and what you can do to have a good time too). We complied a list of a few reminders and tips on how to make sure you are ready for the wedding day.
10 Things Grooms Should Do the Night Before the Wedding
Relax – even if it means disconnecting from technology. Most of us feel a little bit naked without our cellphones on hand, but that doesn’t mean that we actually need them. Disconnect for the day and you’ll be amazed by the number of things you’re missing out on just because you spend too much time getting notifications and messages. Just relax, have a good day, think of all the things you and your partner are going to achieve together. Happiness is, at the end, what will make you look the most well-rested and stunning on your wedding day
Visit family and friends. Go visit your parents, family, or closest friends. Having a good laugh or a little adventure with the people you care about will take your mind off your pre-wedding nerves. They will appreciate your time, and you can be reminded of their importance in your life. And they will probably want to see you before the wedding day too!
Don’t drink (that much). You’re getting married and there’s so much to celebrate! With family and friends in town that you may not have seen in a while, you will be tempted to join them for a few drinks. It’s nice to catch up, but don’t overdo it. Drinking with your college buddies like you used to when you were actually in college might sound like a fun idea, but you don’t want to be hungover for your wedding day. Enjoy a few drinks but mostly relax, have fun, and make sure you will be well-rested and presentable for the big day.
Eat moderately. The same recommendation goes for food. Standing at the altar with horrible indigestion is not something you want to worry about when you see your beautiful bride for the first time. Make sure to eat, but choose something healthy and light to avoid bloating, heartburn, and other gastric disturbances. (But also remember to enjoy your wedding food and cake that you’ve been waiting so long for!)
Review your speech. Have you rehearsed it? If not, this is a good time to practice! Get familiar with it, and think of all the good feelings it will evoke in your partner, guests and even yourself. The speech is not a chore, but a verbal sign of your love and commitment, so enjoy it!
Make sure all the details you’re in charge of are ready – especially the gifts. Have you and your partner decided to exchange gifts on your wedding day? Do you have yours ready? Now is a good time to take care of last details – does it need to be finalized or wrapped? Do you need to get it delivered somewhere?
If you haven’t had the time to prepare a gift, this is a good time to do so. You don’t have to spend a lot of money to prepare something that's beautiful and meaningful. Just make sure it's thoughtful, like a bottle of your bride’s favorite champagne, or even a heartfelt note or a silly song that will make her laugh. We tend to think that the best gifts aren’t bought, but made. Be creative!
Did you find out about some last-minute tasks? Delegate them. Ask your Best Man, groomsmen or the wedding planner to take care of them, and try your best to not stress out. Your Best Man and groomsmen care about you and are there to help, and probably want to be involved in your special day. Give them all the information they’ll need, guide them in the right action path, and relax. We know it’s easier said than done, but you should focus on what’s important –you, your partner, and the love you both share.
Organize vendor payments. Make sure everything is under control and you haven't forgotten any vendor (it can happen, believe us). For cash payment, divide the money in labeled envelopes, and assign your Best Man or a close, reliable person to hand them to the vendor. You can also opt to do digital payments via Paypal or your online bank account.
Prepare all your belongings (including the luggage). Is your tuxedo ironed? Do your shoes look perfect? Make sure all your attire is ready to be worn, you don’t want to be rushing to find your tie on one of the happiest days of your life!
If you haven’t done it already, prepare your honeymoon luggage. Keep in mind the weather of the place you’re visiting and pack accordingly – and avoid over-packing. Your honeymoon is about creating beautiful memories in the first step of your married life, not about the story of you struggling with your suitcases.
Sleep! Tomorrow’s a great day. Even if you’re nervous or excited (or both!) decide to go to sleep early. You don’t want to be yawning during your vows! Your memory and stress levels will thank you, and there will be plenty of time to visit with friends at the reception.
Grooms can be just as involved in their wedding as their brides! Try to take some of the pressure off your fiancee by asking her what help she needs and reminding her that you are there for her. And most importantly, relax and enjoy these moments because tomorrow is the start of the next exciting stage of your life! Are you a bride that was able to successfully involve her groom in the wedding? Are you a groom that has advice for other soon-to-be-husbands? What worked and what didn't? Let us know in the comments!