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Groom Duties: 10 Things To Do The Night Before The Wedding

It’s no secret that the task of wedding preparation is usually taken care of by the bride. However, there are a lot of responsibilities to be fulfilled by you - much more than just “showing up on time”. If the big day is quickly approaching, then it's about time you start getting all of the details in order. To ensure the day runs smoothly, and that you have a good time! To help, we have compiled a list of 10 things for the groom to do the night before the wedding.

A touching father son picture on the morning of the wedding | Kennedy Blue | Jessica Roberts Photography

10 Things Grooms Should Do the Night Before the Wedding 

Relax & Disconnect

Most of us feel a little bit naked without our cellphones on hand, but that doesn’t mean that we actually need them. Disconnect for the day and you’ll be amazed by the number of things you’re missing out on. Just relax, have a good day, think of all the things you and your partner are going to achieve together. Happiness is, at the end, what will make you look the most well-rested and stunning on your wedding day.

Visit Family & Friends

Go visit your parents, family, or close friends. Having a good laugh or a little adventure with the people you care about will take your mind off any pre-wedding nerves. They will appreciate your time, and you can be reminded of their importance in your life. Plus, they will probably want to see you before the wedding day too!

Don’t Drink (That Much)

You’re getting married and there’s so much to celebrate! With family and friends in town that you may not have seen in a while, you will be tempted to join them for a few drinks. It’s nice to catch up, but don’t overdo it. Drinking with your college buddies like you did when you were actually in college might sound like a fun idea. But you don’t want to be hungover for your wedding day - and your bride probably won't appreciate it. Enjoy a few drinks, but make sure you will be well-rested and presentable for the big day.

A cute DIY idea for your wedding! | Kennedy Blue

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Eat Well & Drink Water

The same recommendation goes for food. Standing at the altar with horrible indigestion is not something you want to worry about when you see your beautiful bride for the first time. Make sure to eat, but choose something healthy and light to avoid bloating, heartburn, and other gastric disturbances. At the same time, enjoy the wedding food and cake that you’ve been waiting so long for!

Practice Your Speech

Have you rehearsed it? If not, this is a good time to practice! Get familiar with your speech, and think of all the good feelings it will evoke in your partner and wedding guests. The speech is not a chore, but a verbal sign of your love and commitment. Take the time to practice, perhaps in front of friends. You might also prepare an outline on a notecard. in case you blank.

Prepare Your Wedding Gift

Have you and your partner decided to exchange gifts on your wedding day? Do you have yours ready? Now is a good time to take care of last details – does it need to be finalized or wrapped? Do you need to get it delivered somewhere?

If you haven’t had the time to prepare a gift, this is a good time to do so. You don’t have to spend a lot of money to prepare something that's beautiful and meaningful. Just make sure it's thoughtful, like a bottle of your bride’s favorite champagne, or even a heartfelt note or a silly song that will make her laugh. We tend to think that the best gifts aren’t bought, but made. Be creative!

Write each other notes on the morning of your wedding! A fun, cute, and affordable DIY wedding gift | Kennedy Blue

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Need Help With Last Minute Tasks?

Delegate them. Ask your Best Man, groomsmen or the wedding planner to take care of them. Try your best to not stress out! Your Best Man and groomsmen care about you and are there to help. They want to be involved in your special day. Give them all the information they’ll need, guide them in the right direction, and relax. We know it’s easier said than done, but you should focus on what’s important –you, your partner, and the love you both share.

Prepare Vendor Payments

Prepare any final payments, or tips, for your wedding vendors. For cash or check payments, place the money in labeled envelopes. Task the delivery of the payments to your Best Man or another close friend or family member. If agreed to by the vendor, you can opt to do digital payments via Paypal or a transfer.

Pack Your Wedding Bags

Is your tuxedo ironed? Are your shoes shines? Make sure all your wedding day attire is ready to be worn. You don’t want to be rushing around to find a tie or stressing about wrinkles. Get all of your clothing and accessories prepped and packed for easy transport. If you haven’t  already, prepare your honeymoon luggage as well. Consider the weather of the place you’re traveling to and pack accordingly. Be sure to avoid over-packing!

A touching wedding morning photo of a husband to be | Kennedy Blue

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Get Some Shut Eye!

You're probably nervous or excited, or both! To help make sure you get plenty of sleep and look your very best, go to bed early. You don’t want to be yawning during your vows! Your memory and stress levels will thank you, and there will be plenty of time to visit with friends at the reception.

Let's Chat!

Grooms can be just as involved in the wedding as their brides! Try to take some of the pressure off your fiancee by asking what help she needs, and reminding her that you are available. Most importantly, be sure to relax and enjoy these moments - and remind your soon-to-be bride to do the same. Tomorrow is the start of an exciting stage in your life!

Are you a bride that was able to successfully involve her groom in the wedding? Are you a groom that has advice for other soon-to-be-husbands? What worked and what didn't? Let us know in the comment section below!

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August 04, 2022 09:35

I have taken total control of our wedding from day 1. its a 12 month project and we are almost 1/2 way through. we took this decision from Day 1 as my partners job is totally consuming and in a past life I was a Project Manager. its been an eye opener but I love it. all the major items are ticked off and sorted, we have the venue, menu, day time music, DJ, cake, florist and favors all sorted. I am now down to the toddlers gift bags and entertainment table. Gradually working through ( jointly) the music for each of the formal stages of the day. a meeting has been arranged with a designer for the wedding stationary. I love working within a budget and getting it all to line up – sad but it is fun. When I first started I thought 12 months was way too long. how wrong I was, even some of the suppliers we really wanted were fully booked up over 12 months in advance.

Haley Cantor
June 28, 2018 14:39

Great article. I have the coolest share. We just went to a wedding and the groom gave the bride a sketch of her dress and his suit. It was displayed at the reception. The detail was stunning.

October 22, 2017 09:45

Great list!

June 28, 2017 21:57


Alecia Parks
June 20, 2017 11:57

I wish my fiance was more involved, he has taken an official no contest stance on everything involving the wedding. I think he is afraid he will mess something up. I am trying to get him more comfortable but it’s slow, everything with him takes a long time.

June 15, 2017 08:24

Love this! Most articles are for brides! Great pointers!

June 12, 2017 12:17

More men should read this!

June 12, 2017 11:47

I love this! There is such a gap of content for men on so many bridal blogs. The groom (or grooms) of any wedding should be as much a part of things as the bride in my opinion. He’s also part of the festivities and marriage, so I think it’s great to give advice geared towards him.

June 07, 2017 14:36

This is great! Sharing with my future hubs ?

June 03, 2017 10:57

Love that this gets the Groom involved. Usually the articles are only for the bride.

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