After the wedding is said and done, there’s probably nothing you’d rather do than honeymoon and relax…and we definitely don’t blame you! In fact, I can name about 100 different things that I’d rather do than get hand cramps while writing out hundreds of handwritten cards. However, you gotta get it done, girl, so you may as well grab some coffee, maybe even a sugary pastry (but don’t smudge the stationary!), and put a smile on your face!
While it can almost seem as daunting as the planning process itself, I assure you — with a little organization and some helpful tips, you’ll have your wedding thank you notes done in no time! So keep reading to learn all of the thank you card etiquette do’s and don’ts, organization tips, and some samples of what to write!
DO be timely! Your thank you’s are expected to be received by the guest no later than two months after the wedding date or the date that the gift is received. If you go on a honeymoon immediately after, obviously no one expects you to be writing letters on the beach, but you should start working on them as soon as you get back.
DON’T give thanks digitally. Emails and (oh my gosh, I shouldn’t even have to say this next one) texts are absolute no-no’s when it comes to thanking your guests. Even those cute online e-cards? Nope…don’t even think about it. A thank you note involves stationary, a handwritten message, and a stamp. No if’s, and’s, or but’s about it!
DO include personal details. Every card should mention the guests name(s), what they gave, why you’re excited to have it, and how you plan to use it. Check out an example below!
DON’T reference the amount. Regardless whether they gave you a $20 gift or a $200 gift, all should be treated equally and you should never ever ever mention the amount (ever.) within your message. Be thankful that they thought to give you a gift regardless.
DO include mentions of time and effort spent. If any of your family or friends helped with the planning, set-up, clean-up, calling relatives for RSVP’s, or spent any other time or energy other than simply just being a guest, PLEASE make sure to mention that! Thanking them for playing a helpful role in your big day will mean more to them than being thanked for the new crockpot.
DON’T be too formal. “Dear Mr. and Mrs. Anderson…” Ew. Stop. These are your family and friends that you are writing too! It’s totally okay to be conversational and lighthearted. If you want to tell your uncle Mark how much you appreciated his killer dance moves — do it! If you want to tell your cousins that you can’t wait to host a drunken margarita night with the new blender — let them know! They’ll love a letter that actually sounds like it came from you rather than a template.
DO acknowledge your vendors. After all is said and done, they are easy to forget, but boy-oh-boy, did they play a big part in your big day! Sending them a handwritten note will be so appreciated by the staff that helped make your day come true.
DON’T ignore your gift-less guests. Just because they didn’t give a gift, doesn’t mean they don’t deserve a thank-you for being an awesome attendee!
DO be organized! How embarrassing would it be for a family to get two thank-you’s from you? Or even worse, to not get one at all? Find a system that works for you and make sure you stick to it! More on staying organized below.
DON’T tackle this project alone. This can be your first real task as a married couple and shouldn’t be expected to be the bride’s responsibility! Besides, it was half his family, too! Divvy up the guest list and set aside time together each night to work on a number of thank you notes.
Sometimes figuring out how to get started is the hardest part. Rather than sitting around for 30 minutes with severe writers block, here are some examples to get you started.
Thank you notes should be at least three sentences, but of course, more is always better! Remember to keep the cards CAP — conversational, appreciative, and personal!
[Guests Who Brought a Gift]“Dear [Guests],
[Guests Who Gave a Monetary Gift]“Dear [Guest],
[Guests Who Did Not Give a Gift]“Dear [Guest],
[Those Who Could Not Attend]“Dear [Name],
“Dear [Vendor Contact Name],
We are so appreciative of all the hard work that you put into our wedding day to help make it perfect! We got so many compliments on the [service] and loved telling our guests about [company name]. Our big day wouldn’t have been complete without you!
Thanks so much,
X and X”
No matter the size of the wedding, you’re going to have to include thank you cards into your budget. Start looking early and keep an eye out for good deals — especially since you’ll likely need to buy them in bulk.
Whether you want something personalized with a photo from your big day, or something more simple with a simple “thanks” message on it, there are tons of options available, so it’s just a matter of determining what you prefer.
Here are some sites to consider:
Wedding Paper Divas - Personalized stationary. Available in bulk.
Minted - Personalized stationary. Available in bulk.
Paper Source - Personalized stationary and traditional stationary. Available in sets of 6-10.
Target - Traditional stationary. Quantities vary.
Barnes & Noble - Traditional stationary. Quantities vary.
Amazon - Traditional stationary. Quantities vary.
Rifle Paper Co. - Traditional stationary. Available in singles or sets of 8.
How do you plan to tackle your wedding thank you notes? Will your hubby be helping out or are you handling it solo? Will you create a spreadsheet or do you have a different organization method? Leave a comment below and let us know how you plan to get the job done! In the meantime, happy writing!
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Taking Your Measurements
For the most accurate measurements, do not measure over your clothing. Your measurements should be taken while wearing undergarments similar to the ones you will wear with your dress. The measuring tape shouldn't be pulled too tight or have too much slack, and should always be parallel with the floor.
**Wedding apparel is typically sized differently than retail clothing, so keep in mind that it's not uncommon to find yourself requiring alterations.
Bust size: Wrap the tape around your back and under your arms at the fullest part of your bust (not underneath the bust).
Waist size: While standing up straight, bend at the waist to one side. Take the measurement where the natural crease happens in your side. This should be a few inches above your belly button.
Hip size: Standing with your feet together, wrap the tape around the fullest part of your hips and butt to get this measurement.
Choosing your correct size
Compare these three measurements to the Kennedy Blue size chart above. It is very important that you order the largest size that corresponds to your measurements. For example, if your bust measures 40.5" (size 12), your waist measures 31" (size 10) and your hips measure 41.5" (size 8), we advise that you order a size 12, and get your dress altered down to custom fit your body. Ordering anything smaller than a size 12 would not fit in the bust area. Please note: Our bridal gown size chart is different than the bridesmaids sizing and is listed below.