After the wedding is said and done, there’s probably nothing you’d rather do than honeymoon and relax…and we definitely don’t blame you! In fact, I can name about 100 different things that I’d rather do than get hand cramps while writing out hundreds of handwritten thank you cards. However, you gotta get it done, girl, so you may as well grab some coffee, maybe even a sugary pastry (but don’t smudge the stationary!), and put a smile on your face!
While it can almost seem as daunting as the planning process itself, I assure you — with a little organization and some helpful tips, you’ll have your wedding thank you notes done in no time! So keep reading to learn all of the thank you card etiquette do’s and don’ts, organization tips, and some samples of what to write!
Your thank you’s are expected to be received by the guest no later than two months after the wedding date or the date that the gift is received. If you go on a honeymoon immediately after, obviously no one expects you to be writing letters on the beach, but you should start working on them as soon as you get back.
Emails and (oh my gosh, I shouldn’t even have to say this next one) texts are absolute no-no’s when it comes to thanking your guests. Even those cute online e-cards? Nope…don’t even think about it. A thank you note involves stationary, a handwritten message, and a stamp. No if’s, and’s, or but’s about it!
Every thank you card should mention the guests name(s), what they gave, why you’re excited to have it, and how you plan to use it. Check out an example below!
Regardless whether they gave you a $20 gift or a $200 gift, all should be treated equally and you should never ever ever mention the amount (ever.) within your message. Be thankful that they thought to give you a gift regardless.
If any of your family or friends helped with the wedding planning, set-up, clean-up, calling relatives for RSVP’s, or spent any other time or energy other than simply just being a guest, PLEASE make sure to mention that! Thanking them for playing a helpful role in your big day will mean more to them than being thanked for the new crockpot.
“Dear Mr. and Mrs. Anderson…” Ew. Stop. These are your family and friends that you are writing too! It’s totally okay to be conversational and lighthearted. If you want to tell your uncle Mark how much you appreciated his killer dance moves — do it! If you want to tell your cousins that you can’t wait to host a drunken margarita night with the new blender — let them know! They’ll love a letter that actually sounds like it came from you rather than a template.
After all is said and done, they are easy to forget, but boy-oh-boy, did they play a big part in your big day! Sending them a handwritten note will be so appreciated by the staff that helped make your day come true.
Just because they didn’t give a gift, doesn’t mean they don’t deserve a thank-you for being an awesome attendee!
How embarrassing would it be for a family to get two thank-you’s from you? Or even worse, to not get one at all? Find a system that works for you and make sure you stick to it! More on staying organized below.
This can be your first real task as a married couple and shouldn’t be expected to be one person's responsibility! Besides, both your families attended! Divvy up the guest list and set aside time together each night to work on a number of thank you notes.
Sometimes figuring out how to get started is the hardest part. Rather than sitting around for 30 minutes with severe writers block, here are some examples to get you started.
Thank you notes should be at least three sentences, but of course, more is always better! Remember to keep the cards CAP — conversational, appreciative, and personal!
[Guests Who Brought a Gift]“Dear [Guests],
[Guests Who Gave a Monetary Gift]“Dear [Guest],
[Guests Who Did Not Give a Gift]“Dear [Guest],
[Those Who Could Not Attend]“Dear [Name],
“Dear [Vendor Contact Name],
We are so appreciative of all the hard work that you put into our wedding day to help make it perfect! We got so many compliments on the [service] and loved telling our guests about [company name]. Our big day wouldn’t have been complete without you!
Thanks so much,
X and X”
No matter the size of the wedding, you’re going to have to include thank you cards into your budget. Start looking early and keep an eye out for good deals — especially since you’ll likely need to buy them in bulk.
Whether you want something personalized with a photo from your big day, or something more simple with a simple “thanks” message on it, there are tons of options available, so it’s just a matter of determining what you prefer.
Here are some sites to consider:
Wedding Paper Divas - Personalized stationary. Available in bulk.
Minted - Personalized stationary. Available in bulk.
Paper Source - Personalized stationary and traditional stationary. Available in sets of 6-10.
Target - Traditional stationary. Quantities vary.
Barnes & Noble - Traditional stationary. Quantities vary.
Amazon - Traditional stationary. Quantities vary.
Rifle Paper Co. - Traditional stationary. Available in singles or sets of 8.
How do you plan to tackle your wedding thank you notes? Will your hubby be helping out or are you handling it solo? Will you create a spreadsheet or do you have a different organization method? Leave a comment below and let us know how you plan to get the job done! In the meantime, happy writing!
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Taking Your Measurements
Wearing the undergarments that you will wear with the dress, wrap the measuring tape around your back and under your arms at the fullest part of your bust.
Stand up straight and bend to the side, the crease created is your natural waist. Wrap tape around the narrowest part of your natural waist.
Stand with your feet together, wrap the tape around the fullest part of your hips and seat.
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