The time has come where your sister, BFF or cousin has asked you to be the Maid of Honor and we could not be more thrilled for you. How exciting! Although there are many duties that come along with having the MOH title, one of the most important factors is giving an amazing Maid of Honor speech that will be unforgettable! Helping the bride plan out her wedding planning timeline, picking out the venue, bridesmaid dresses, and color themes is fun and exciting, but preparing something as special as this is more than a little intimidating, not to mention very meaningful. So, we're here to help guide you along to create the best speech possible with some must-know DO'S and DON’TS to get you started.
The DO'S & DON'TS to Giving the Best Maid of Honor Speech
DO: start jotting down notes or ideas all the way up until you write you the whole speech. It's easy and will help you in the long run when you're actually putting it together.
DON'T: wait until last minute and throw something together. You'll feel unprepared and more nervous about what you've written.
DO: practice, practice, practice. This will be extremely helpful when the nerves kick in on the actual wedding day. Practice in front of the mirror and in front of your friends and family. They will give you kind feedback of what you can add or take out. Having a friend edit the speech will also help in the fun preparing process!
DON'T: tell the bride what your speech will be about or ask her if you can talk about certain things. Keeping this part of the process quiet until the big day will make it that much more special for the bride!
DO: tell the guests who you are and how you and the bride know one another. Everyone in the room is not from her side and it will also create a sense of connection for everyone there.
DON'T: feel like you have to open with a witty one-liner or a joke. It's much better to lead with a sentimental statement rather than a joke that can fall flat.
DO: talk about positive attributes, such as, how her smile can light up any room and is the first one to help a person in need. Sharing a brief story of what you love most about the bride will definitely leave her in tears!
DO: briefly share how you knew that she met the one. This is the perfect time to add in a joke or funny story into your speech! Did you notice her using certain catch phrases or words that her new found love always used? Talking about these will be very light hearted and funny. Also note the time he put on roller skates to take on one of her hobbies as well!
DON'T: bring up past relationships and exes. Leave those for the bachelorette party roast or for a different time that's a lot less sentimental and not so focused on the new love birds.
DO: say what you love about the groom, like how well he treats the bride, how funny he is, or how sweet he is with her family.
DON'T: make that awful joke about how, "if it doesn’t work out between you two, you know where to find me." While it may be funny to you and your close friends, it's extremely inappropriate and unnecessary for the rest of the guests.
DO: make sure to address BOTH the bride and groom in your speech, not just the bride. Now that you've covered each of them separately, tell a funny or romantic story about the lovely couple and their everlasting love.
DON'T: talk about yourself too much. If you're going to say something about yourself, make it short and sweet and make sure it ties back to the couple. Try to not use too many "I's" and "me's".
DO: make sure you have a glass to raise up. After all, it is a toast and you'll want to have something to cheers to the couple with! Also, wish them a lifetime of love and happiness or whatever you feel should be said that are well wishes to the new Mr. and Mrs.!
DON'T: have an abrupt ending such as, "Cheers!" You don't want your ending to be anticlimactic.
7 Tips on How to Deliver Your Speech
- Keep It Short. No one likes to hear people ramble and that definitely applies for a toast. Keep your speech between 1-3 minutes and you'll have the guests attention the whole time.
- Write Out What You Plan To Say. This doesn’t have to be word for word, but writing down a couple of lines or having note cards will be very helpful.
- Rehearse Your Toast. Do this by yourself or have a friend listen to your delivery so they can pick out any tongue twisters you might have.
- Breathe! As you're practicing your toast, mark the certain spots you notice yourself speeding up at with a dot so you will know to slow down or take a breath.
- Make Eye Contact. Look the bride and the groom in the eyes while making your toast instead of staring down at your notes. If this makes you nervous, you can direct your gaze over the guests heads while glancing back and forth off and on at the couple.
- Stay Sober. As much as we think liquid courage would help, it'll mostly likely turn into slurred words and tangents. Plus, you'll want to cherish these memories down the road with the new bride!
- Be Emotional. It's completely okay to be emotional while delivering your speech! Letting a few tears loose is a sign of how much the bride means to you and how happy you are for her.
Wedding Speech Preparation
With the wedding underway, you now have the perfect guideline for an unforgettable toast! You'll want to start the writing process about 3-4 weeks before the actual wedding day, so be sure to make note of this on your wedding planning timeline and don't forget to start jotting down notes along the way! Weddings are one of the most special times in a persons life and sharing something as special and as beautiful as a celebration speech with your loved one will make it even that much better.
Now that you're an expert at preparing toasts, let us know what your favorite part of the planning process is in the comments!