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Getting married is one of the most exciting events in your life! However, we understand that the big day can cause some stress both before, during, and after your ceremony.
Heck, a recent Zola study recently reported 40% of couples categorized wedding planning as “extremely stressful, and 71% thought it was more nerve-wracking than any other major life events (even finding a new job).
Maybe you’ve just said “yes” to the love of your life, and right after the moment of intense happiness and excitement, you suddenly feel a wave of dread when you realize how much time and money will have to go into your wedding.
Or, maybe you’re days away from your wedding day, and you’re nervous it’s going to be a disaster. How do you deal with it all? We’ll give you a breakdown of some common wedding stressors and ways you can tackle them for some peace of mind.
Getting engaged may be the most stressful time, since you have so many question marks and unknowns in front of you. What’s a girl to do?
Since your engagement, you’ve probably gotten a wave of congratulations and well wishes (yay!). You may also notice you’re getting a lot of unsolicited advice and opinions. Unfortunately, people sometimes view an engagement as a time to air their personal opinions about marriage and partnership—some well-meaning and some, not so much!
The best thing you can do at this point is take everything with a grain of salt. Generally, these opinions (especially the negative ones) have more to do with the person giving them than you and your partner. You can hear the commenters out respectfully, but don’t let the negative opinions get you down. Ultimately, it’s your life and your choice who you marry!
Your budget may be one of the single largest factors in how your wedding will turn out. During the planning stages, it’s important to get a realistic idea of the money situation to avoid further stress.
It can be hard to decide between wedding dresses, venue spaces, food choices, or many of the other decisions in front of you during your wedding planning phase. You may feel rushed, but allow yourself to take the time you need to make decisions. Make some time for yourself every day to chip away at some of the wedding planning work. If you’re still having trouble making a decision, ask someone you trust for their help or unbiased opinion (if that’s something that won’t stress you out more!).
Don’t even go there. It may be tempting to think “what if I don’t like this later?” Try your best to make your decision and feel confident and peaceful with your choice. After all, very few choices are life-and-death—you will be able to cope (and most likely won’t even think about the option you didn’t go with after the choice has been made).
Brides-to-be can feel a lot of pressure to create the Pinterest-perfect wedding. You may be saying “I’m so overwhelmed. How can I make sure everything comes together?” Our steps to coping with this feeling:
The wedding day itself is here, and you’re worried that it’s too good to be true. How do you cope with unexpected surprises the day-of?
Prepare ahead of time! Set some time aside for yourself a few nights a week before your wedding, and make sure you’re packed. Common things you should check for include:
Again, don’t feel like you have to do everything alone! Don’t be afraid to ask a bridesmaid or best bud to help by bringing something to the wedding.
Things may go perfectly, or you may have issues with the DJ or an unruly guest. The key to dealing with this is to strike a balance: think ahead of anything you can do to prevent the issues you see happening—but also allow yourself to relax and enjoy the best day of your life! Know that if an issue arises, it is not necessarily your fault, and sometimes there’s nothing you can do to prevent it. Our tips?
Past that, all you can do is relax and hope for the best!
The wedding is over, you’ve left for your honeymoon, and you feel like all the stress is over. Or is it? Enter a stack of thank you cards.
Some say sending thank you’s is still appropriate up to a year after the wedding. However, it will be better for you and your guests to get their thank you’s out of the way sooner.
No matter what size or budget your wedding, it’s bound to be a little nerve-wracking at times. Don’t let this get you down! Keep your eyes on the prize—you’re getting married!
Do you have tips on how you survived stressful situations before, during, or after your wedding? Please share in the comments below!
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Taking Your Measurements
For the most accurate measurements, do not measure over your clothing. Your measurements should be taken while wearing undergarments similar to the ones you will wear with your dress. The measuring tape shouldn’t be pulled too tight or have too much slack, and should always be parallel with the floor.
Wedding apparel is typically sized differently than retail clothing, so keep in mind that it’s not uncommon to find yourself requiring alterations.
Compare these three measurements to the Kennedy Blue size chart above. It is very important that you order the largest size that corresponds to your measurements. For example, if your bust measures 40.5” (size 12), your waist measures 31” (size 10) and your hips measure 41.5” (size 8), we advise that you order a size 12, and get your dress altered down to custom fit your body.
Wrap the tape around your back and under your arms at the fullest part of your bust (not underneath the bust).
While standing up straight, bend at the waist to one side. Take the measurement where the natural crease happens in your side. This should be a few inches above your belly button. Stand up straight and do not “suck in” when taking this measurment.
Standing with your feet together, wrap the tape around the fullest part of your hips and butt to get this measurement.
Depending on the fabric, a dress can be altered down up to 2 full sizes, but can be very difficult to let out as there is only about .5 inch of fabric to do so at the seams.
Ordering anything smaller than a size 12 would not fit in the bust area. Please note: Our bridal gown size chart is different than the bridesmaids sizing and is listed below.